If you want to experience drama at its best, then adopt a few pre-teen girls for the afternoon. I recently had such an experience with my daughter and a few her friends.
As soon as they got into the automobile, I began to know such things as:
"Everybody flunked the test."
"He explained he liked me and it absolutely was the very best day of my whole entire life."
"OMG...that was so embarrassing mom. Please don't wave at the high school kids."
"I won't ever, ever understand math."
"You NEVER take me shopping."
"I don't have anything to wear."
The drama continued for the duration of the automobile ride.
It reminded me of the drama queen in many of us (especially women who struggle with emotional eating and body image issues).
The developed drama queen says such things as:
"I've fallen off the wagon."
"I'll never, ever be thin."
"Everybody can eat what they need but me."
"I'm this type of failure."
"OMG...did you see me trying to run? That has been so humiliating."
Over the years of being a woman and experiencing womanhood, I attended to understand that we all have a drama queen that lives within us. It only becomes an issue when she's running the show. Dramacool
So, here certainly are a few tips for living at peace together with your inner drama diva:
1. Look at the drama, in place of from the drama
When you will find yourself being embroiled into a dramatic moment, simply notice what's going on. Observe the way the emotions build, and then notice how you're tempted to act. Would you observe how drama adds a complexity to the situation?
2. State the Facts
Drama is judgment of the facts. In place of saying, "I made a 74 on the math test," a drama queen says, "I'm this type of failure. I won't ever, ever learn math." Or, in place of saying "I ate a case of Oreos," she'll say, "I've fallen off the wagon, and I'll never, ever be thin." Try stating just the important points of the situation, without judgment or negativity.
3. Prove your drama queen wrong
The inner dramatic likes to sensationalize things, but why don't you challenge her a little with proof. For example, when she claims that you will never, ever be thin, find evidence to prove her wrong. Find others who have done that which you want to do or find reasons why you may be thin.
4. Give her the stage
Your drama queen just desires to be heard and seen. Give the poor thing 5 or 10 minutes each day to accomplish her thing. I prefer to schedule in drama time when I will complain, exaggerate, cry, or merely step out of my beautiful life for a few moments to get completely swept up in drama, but then I return and close the curtain.
5. Take her to the movies
Most of us crave a little excitement inside our lives. The problem occurs once we use our lives because the stage for unhealthy drama to unfold. To entertain that part of you who craves a huge production, try taking her to see a great show or read a great, trashy novel. You are able to leave feeling satisfied without completing mucking up your life.
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